Not All Lubes Are Created Equal: How to Choose One That Supports Vaginal Health
Let’s be honest—lube can make intimacy better. But bad lube? That can make things worse.
Many lubricants on the market contain ingredients that irritate vaginal tissue, disrupt your natural microbiome, or even cause pain. If you’ve ever felt itchy, dry, or just off after using lube, you’re not imagining it.
Here’s what you need to know about choosing a lubricant that works with your body—not against it.
Ingredients to Avoid in Lube
The following are common culprits behind irritation, dryness, and even long-term pelvic pain:
Menthol
Found in “cooling” or “tingling” lubes, menthol is a known skin irritant—not ideal for sensitive areas.
Lidocaine
Used to numb, but that numbness can actually mask pain and increase the risk of injury. Only appropriate if prescribed for a specific condition.
Capsaicin
Derived from chili peppers (!), this is sometimes used in warming or arousal-enhancing products. It can trigger intense, lingering nerve discomfort.
Chlorhexidine Gluconate
A preservative in many mainstream lubes, this can destroy beneficial vaginal bacteria that help protect against infections.
Choose a Lube That Supports, Not Sabotages
The best lubricants are free of unnecessary additives, pH-balanced, and designed to nourish vaginal tissue—not disrupt it.
Whether you're addressing dryness, recovering postpartum, managing symptoms of menopause, or simply want more comfort and pleasure, the right lube can make all the difference.
Looking for trusted options?
I’ve gathered my favorite pelvic-floor-safe lubes and personal care products on my Recommended Products page—so you don’t have to second-guess every label.
Still Experiencing Pain with Sex?
Even the cleanest lube can’t solve everything. Pain during sex is often tied to pelvic floor dysfunction—and pelvic floor physical therapy can help.
If you're experiencing discomfort, burning, or pain even with lube, it’s worth looking into.
I offer a complimentary phone consultation to explore what’s going on and how we might work together to help you feel like yourself again.