It’s Okay to Ask for Help: Real Self-Care Starts with Support
We’ve all heard the phrase: “It takes a village.” But in a world that glorifies self-reliance and busy-ness, asking for help can feel like breaking some unspoken rule. The truth? We are not designed to do it all alone.
The other day, I was sitting in my car when a woman approached and asked if I could help jump hers. As I waited for her battery to turn over (it didn’t), I realized something: we only tend to ask for help when we’re completely out of charge—physically, emotionally, or otherwise.
But what if we didn’t wait that long?
Rethinking "Self-Care"
In the world of women’s wellness, “self-care” is everywhere. We’re constantly told we need to prioritize it, make time for it, fit it in. But most of the women I work with can barely find time to pee—let alone schedule a massage or a yoga retreat.
Here’s a radical reframe:
Asking for help is self-care.
It’s not weak. It’s not selfish. And it’s definitely not something to feel guilty about. When we ask for help, we not only lighten our own load—we give others the chance to show up, connect, and contribute.
Why Is It So Hard to Ask?
How many times has someone asked, “Is there anything I can do?” and you automatically reply, “I’m all set!”?
I used to do it too. But in reality? There are always things I could use help with:
Watching my son for an hour so I can run errands
Bringing a dish to a gathering
Splitting bedtime duties with my partner
Hiring someone to clean, even just once a month
It doesn’t have to be dramatic. It just has to be intentional.
Building Your Web of Support
Support looks different for everyone—and that’s the beauty of it. One friend might be your emotional anchor, another your go-to for carpool help. Maybe your mom watches your kids while a neighbor swaps playdates. Together, these connections create a web of support—one that’s stronger than any single strand.
Instead of thinking of help as an inconvenience to others, what if we saw it as an invitation? An invitation to build deeper relationships. An invitation to be human.
When we receive help, we give others permission to ask for it too. This is what builds community—and keeps us all afloat.
Feeling Overwhelmed? You’re Not Alone.
I talk to women every day who are exhausted, burned out, and unsure how to get back to feeling like themselves. One of the first steps? Letting go of the idea that you have to do it all.
If you’re not feeling great about your health or your energy, let’s talk. Schedule a complimentary strategy call where we’ll explore what’s going on, what you need, and how I can help support your next step forward.
Because you deserve to feel supported—and to remember that asking for help is not the last resort. It’s the beginning of healing.